We all deserve safe, healthy relationships. If you don’t feel safe or if you begin to notice any of the warning signs of abuse, you must take steps to protect yourself.
Domestic abuse, in all its forms, can have a devastating impact on anyone who experiences it, especially children and young people. It can leave you feeling isolated, scared, and helpless. However, it’s important to know that you are not alone and there are people who care about you and want to help. Sometimes, leaving an abusive home isn’t an option, so it’s vital to have a safety plan to protect yourself.
Our tips for staying safe in an abusive home or relationship
- Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs or when you sell unsafe; this could be a locked room, a friend’s house, or a trusted adult’s home.
- If you feel like abuse is about to occur, avoid areas without exits or where dangerous objects are stored, like the kitchen.
- Think about and make a list of safe people to call – memorise all important numbers. In an emergency, call 999 and ask for the police.
- Keep your phone on you at all times, ensuring it is charged and has credit
- Tell someone you trust about your situation, like a neighbour, friend or family member. Establish a code word with them to indicate discreetly when you need help. While it may initially feel uncomfortable, confiding in someone you trust can help you stay safe.
- Document the abuse – write down dates, times, and the sequence of events. If possible, take pictures or videos of any injuries or damage as evidence and keep them stored somewhere safely.
- If possible, keep an emergency wallet with extra money.
- Remember that the abuse your partner or family member commits is never, ever your fault.
- Know where to get further help.
